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190 - Emily Holland Explores the Upside of Sobriety

I met Emily Holland in October 2019. She interviewed me about my entrepreneurial journey on her Stokecast Podcast. Toward the end of the interview, we talked about my sobriety journey and I did what lots of podcasters pull on other podcasters - I turned one of her questions back on her. I asked her if there was anything in her life that she felt that she wanted to let go of. She replied, "I'm in the process of thinking about letting go of alcohol. I just haven't done all the thinking I want to around it yet." Or something very close! The point is that she was on the verge of starting the journey that has taken her life in a new direction. Sobriety.

Emily is an emerging thought leader in the world of alcohol and sobriety. She embarked on her sober journey over a year ago. In fact, she hit the one year milestone just a few days ago and wrote a powerful blog with 9 powerful takeaways. Emily is a very deep thinker. She is not taking her sobriety journey lightly. She has become so passionate about what sobriety has brought to her life, how much it has helped her grow, that she decided to start a new venture, a podcast called Nature Untold. Her goal is to normalize and destigmatize the discussion around sobriety, addiction, and recovery in the outdoor community and industry. And she is doing just that!

Notables:
The "Bristle" Trigger: What is bugging you? What is it time to examine?
Prioritizing Partying: Why this becomes important and when it's time to shift priorities
Question asked in therapy: "Have you grieved the loss of alcohol?"
Drinking is a relationship that brings you comfort or fills a void of some sort. It makes sense that the loss of it needs to be grieved.
Euphoric recall: Nostalgia for the memories & community that were part of one's drinking life
She believes there is a line between calling oneself an alcoholic and recognizing drinking isn't a positive part of one's lives and it's time to stop.
The habit of drinking: we riff a bit on the example used in the book "Power of Habit" by Charles Duhigg
Destigmatizing sobriety: It starts with having open conversations.
Replace the drinking addiction with something else like exercise or adventure
3 things that were key to Emily's decision to stop drinking: 1) Therapy, 2) Someone who loves you unconditionally and wants to support the changes you decide to make, 3) COVID
Best gateway (drug 😂) to sobriety? "Taking time off is incredibly awesome." Consider testing out a sober life for Dry January (or any month)
Sober support resources: Start with Grace, Praise for yourself, Therapy; then move on to community resources like AA, the Luckiest Club, Tempest Group, Phoenix Multisport (we mention Scott Strode too!)
Nature Untold Podcast: Emily has a passion to help people with their own journeys
Recommended books about sobriety: "Sober Curious" by Ruby Warrington & Holly Whitaker's "How to Quit Like a Woman"
Nugget: Stay curious. About yourself. What am I feeling, who am I, what do I want? knowing yourself. Curious about others too, about things you don't understand. This can only lead to positive discovery and growth.
Join the Nature Untold Podcast Facebook group
Follow Emily and Nature Untold on Instagram

189 - Love Always Wins with Yummy Butter's Yuma Haidara

I discovered Yuma Haidara when she was an ambassador for Skirt Sports. I think I stumbled upon a photo of her crossing a finish line in a Lioness Skirt, all smiles and happiness. Then I dug deeper and saw this gorgeous, tall, glowing woman standing in front of a huge truck only to learn that she is both a runner and a trucker. I was even more intrigued and reached out to feature her for Skirt Sports. She blew me away with her positive outlook and her focus on love; for others but more importantly for ourselves.

Just over a year later, I saw another post. This time she was holding a container of something I can only describe as mysteriously delicious-looking. Turns out that's the perfect way to describe her new product: Yummy Butter! Yuma started A Yummy Life after countless friends begged her to make her soothing body lotions for them too. One thing led to another and suddenly, Yuma was an entrepreneur!
Her journey has been tough, but through it all, she only shines brighter each day. Just for you, she is offering 15% off all products at A Yummy Life. Use code LOVE for 15% off at checkout!

Notables from our conversation:
Trigger warning: Yuma is a survivor of child sexual abuse, something I didn't know before we talked.
How serving in the military gave her the family environment she had always craved
#22aday: Each day 22 veterans take their lives. Yuma is passionate about raising awareness to help veterans so we can decrease this shocking statistic
"I'm glad you exist."
How to be a healthy trucker: cook your meals in a crock pot in your truck!

Recommended books: "Can't Hurt Me" by David Goggins & "The Alchemist" by Paulo Coelho
Nugget: To Just Love...
Broccoli Soup recipe forthcoming!
More Yuma: @yumahaidara on Instagram
Don't forget to use code LOVE for 15% off Yummy Butters and new Yummy Lips!

188 - Tasha Edwards 2021 word is POWER

I reached out to Tasha in July 2020. I didn't have a topic in mind when I discovered her; I just knew that I needed to talk to her. It finally hit me. She is on the journey. We don't share enough stories from people who are literally in the middle of the journey. We like to share stories from people who have been "enlightened," who have "gotten there." Tasha is a work in progress which reminds us that we are all works in progress.
Her overriding mission is to help women connect back to their power through movement. She uses the phrase "connect back" because women have always had the power, they just lose the connection to it.
Notables:
Priorities and connection: When Tasha lost half of her clientele in 2020. what she found is that she had time to connect to the people who were left.
"My space is the conversation around why we believe what we believe, and why are we following who we are following. What is our why? What do we really want in life and how do we get out of the bed from the depression and stress of 2020? How do we even get out of bed to talk about movement?"
"Mind your own mat" concept: How do you feel and perform if no one is looking?
Optimum health is the goal: It's not entirely tangible. It's not about a certain weight. It's about functioning the best we can be as our bodies constantly change.
Stop comparing! Especially to our younger selves
What the heck are "morning abs?"
Tasha's 2021 word is POWER
"Trust yourself. Your intuition will not lead you the wrong way."
Tasha's nonprofit: See Her Healthy @seeherhealthy on Instagram - Follow now!
Tasha's Website Hip Healthy Chick
Work with her: https://www.hiphealthychick.com/services
Check out her fitness workouts on John Garey TV
Follow her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter & Youtube @hiphealthychick

187 - "Be Yourself. Everyone Else is Taken." Astrologer Debra Silverman

"You have a calling and a purpose. I have insights and answers."
This is the first thing you read on Debra Silverman's website and for those of us who are in a confused space in life, possibly made even more so by our current health and political climates, we want insights. We want answers!
I took an interest in astrology when I first met Tim. I think that happens to a lot of us. We find the love of our life, we get all romantic and we want to learn more about how we were meant to fit together. I bought a book on astrology and started reading. At some point I put the book away and for years my only connection to astrology was through the daily horoscope in the paper. But the foundation of the practice still tugged at my heart; I had a feeling I would come back to it at some point.
It's been well over 20 years since I bought that book, so when I discovered Debra Silverman and her work helping people fall in love with themselves, I knew the time was now.

Debra is a perfect blend of scientific and cosmic knowledge. She is both a Clinical Psychologist and a master Astrologer. I liken it to a blend of Eastern & Western practices that can help you find what you're looking for. Or gain peace from what you know you already have.
We talk about so many things today, but the foundation of our conversation is about the four elements: Earth, Fire, Air, Water. Turns out I'm a whole lotta Fire and Air but I'm missing Water. Water is the place where you go inside and float (I made up the floating part but it sounds about right!). It also turns out that Tim is a whole lotta Water. So going back to my relationship and why many of us turn to Astrology for answers, this is why we find the person who brings us so much joy because they complement our elemental makeup, but so much tension because they have what we don't! WOW!

If you are intrigued and want to learn more, check out Debra's Applied Astrology School. The timing couldn't be better because it only opens twice a year and it's open right now! Let me know if you are interested. I'm considering applying too. It's one of those things that when you feel the inkling of change, when you feel that push on your heart, you know it's got to happen sometime, so why not now?
Click here for Applied Astrology School
Some notables from today:
"You've got wild women on this podcast." - Debra Silverman - Why yes, I do!
She traveled with Sting for a year! Watch his review of her book.
Debra helps people fall in love with themselves.
The concept of permission slips
She recommends the book "My Stroke of Insight" by Jill Bolte Taylor
Get more Debra:
Grab a FREE gift from her! The Elemental Compatibility Guidebook is here!
Sign up for Applied Astrology School
Buy her book that we talked about "The Missing Element"
Follow her on IG @debra_silvermanastrology and Facebook - her daily horoscopes are AWESOME!
Check out her YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/user/silvermanastrology
Get a reading!
Connect with a certified astrologer from her network near you (or virtually)

186 - Just Believe in Yourself with Sarah Vernon-Brunner

Sarah is one in a million. In 2006 she visited Boulder to interview for Skirt Sports, this crazy little company with a powerful mission. I hired her immediately, or at least after I asked her to help us move boxes around the warehouse and I realized how strong she was! 😘

I had the honor of working with Sarah for over 15 years, longer than I thought I would actually still be at Skirt Sports myself! Sarah came on board a year after she finished college; she held almost every job at Skirt Sports, except for the most creative, technical roles. For the last 5+ years, she held the title, President, and basically ran the company.
This conversation is both a celebration and a form of closure for me & Sarah. When we sold our last unit on August 16, 2020, Sarah and I were the last-women-standing. We had spent three months effectively closing down the company, and were thrilled that we had turned the finish line into a baton handoff, but the very end it was anticlimactic. We weren't even in the same room when the final unit sold. I think I texted her and that was it.

15+ years of working together can't end on a text! Sarah wrote me a beautiful note, that was full of emotion and I wrote this on a piece of paper, "Write Sarah a letter." Then I never did it. And I realized that this conversation could be the best way to gain a little more closure.
It's a bit of a tell-all, so get ready to hear what REALLY happened at Skirt Sports along the way. What a ride. I hope you enjoy the retelling as much as we did.

Notables from today:
Laughter is one of the best ways to deal with stress!
Two thumbs up (you have to listen)
Relationships: That's what everything is built on in the end. Be sure to nurture and honor them.
ALL THE PEOPLE! We riff on the amazing team we had the honor of interacting with over the years. If we missed you, it doesn't mean we don't love and appreciate you. It was like an Oscars speech and we were getting pushed off the stage!
Sleep is for the weak! (at least before kids!)
Fred Factor: Every interaction is a chance to practice customer care
The crazy times: Getting sued (twice), the eviction (not ours), Skirt Chaser 5k Races, the entire wholesale apocalypse, the ROLLER COASTER!
Gaining new titles while at Skirt Sports: Wife, Mom & more

Thanks for listening. If you want to reach Sarah, send me a note and I'll get it to her!
And please write me a review on iTunes! It helps!!!

185 – Always Search with Artist Sandy Graves

It’s not often you meet a world-class bronze sculptor. It’s even more rare that she’s a woman and she lives next door! I met Sandy Graves before I even moved to Steamboat Springs. We were viewing our future home, stepped into the alley and there she was. Fiddling with something in her garage. Upon closer inspection, that something was the holy mecca of world-class art.
Sandy Graves is a renowned sculptor. She’s known she would be an artist since her kindergarten teacher wrote that prophecy on a piece of paper. She also spent many years being angry with this gift. That was before she figured out how she could turn her gift into a career that could actually sustain herself and her family.
Our conversation is like a walk in the park with a friend. It goes all sorts of directions with laughter, depth and sheer honesty. Sometimes, especially when life is tough and stressful, it’s nice to simply relax and listen – and in this case, gain some new insights from a talented human being you haven’t met before.
Check out Sandy’s art here: https://www.sandygravesart.com/
Read another great article here
Notable points from our conversation:
“Real artists don’t sit around waiting for inspiration. They get up and go to work.” – Chuck Close
Check out @holisticpsychologist for some relationship and personal self growth!
When you battle those spiraling negative thoughts that won’t stop rolling through your mind, think of what Steamboat therapist Nicole McGuffin says, “Who Cares?” & “Bring it on”
If you’re interested in more on the Bahai world religion, check this out.
Finally – her nuggets:
“Think of your life as a book. When the chapters start getting long, you might need to do something exciting to bring your book back to relevance. Don’t let your book get boring.”
“Always search. The day I’m spiritually dead would be the day that I think I know it all. I want a life of search and a life of seeking.”

184 - Kara Burns on Relapse, Love & Unapologetic Realness

Kara Burns has been on the show before. In September 2016, I featured her story in episode 24 "From Prison to 26.2" which quickly became my highest-listened. We followed it up immediately with episode 25 "Forgiving Yourself" when I realized I had been too chicken to ask her what she meant when she said "I lost my daughter." Those conversations four years ago were raw, real and powerful.
 
Kara's journey didn't stop there. She was on a mission to transform her life and entered what could probably be called her "striving years."
 
In October 2018, we sat down for episode 109 and talked about her progress. She was riding a wave of momentum as she had discovered her gifts for speaking, inspiring and leading. Her addiction was under control. Her relationship with her daughter was blossoming and people were taking notice of her. In other words, things were on the up and up.
 
In June 2019, I invited Kara to deliver the final keynote speech at our 300-woman ambassador retreat. At the final moment, she delivered a speech that was different than the one she originally presented to me. It was about the concept of "Slipping," of falling off the wagon, of having a drink. About how she didn't want it to define her and bring her down. Everyone slips sometimes right?
 
I will never forget that when I first met her, she told me, "I will never be able to have a drink again. If I do, it will lead to me doing meth. It may not be immediate, it could be months or a year later, but it will happen."
 
One month after her speech at the retreat, Kara was being wheeled through the Denver airport on her way to rehab after a 6-day meth binge that ravaged her body and mind so much that she couldn't even walk to the plane.
 
It's been over a year since she sought help and regained her sobriety. The lessons she has learned over this year of self-growth are important. They transcend her personal situation. You will benefit from hearing them.
 
Over the past year, Kara did a powerful TEDx Talk called "Own Your Unapologetic Realness." Watch it here.
 
Kara has recently become certified in NLP which we discuss in depth in the interview. If you are intrigued, she's offering FREE NLP sessions in December. Sign up here!
 
More on her coaching group here.
 
Check out Kara Burns Unlimited here. This is where you can contact her!
 
And don't forget to follow her on Instagram @unapologetic.realness
 
Some notable quotes from our conversation:
 
"What we think is the worst thing that could happen could very well be the best thing."
 
"I feel like I won the lottery. and heres what the lottery is. The lottery is wisdom."
 
"The greatest thing that has changed my life is my ability to serve."
 
"The key is learning to love every single Kara over the years."
 
For more Kara Burns, check her out here:
 
Website: https://www.karaburnsunlimited.com/
 
Instagram: @unapologetic.realness
 
Email Kara here: KB@KaraBurnsUnlimited.com
 

183 - "Don't Give up the Hope" with Jamie Pendleton

I met Jamie Pendleton through my husband. She was looking for a coach to give her structure and confidence for a huge running goal - to break 3 hours at the New York Marathon. At that time I just thought she was a driven athlete who needed accountability like most of Tim's clients. Boy was I wrong.
Jamie runs for so much more than the goals and structure. She runs for her sanity. She runs for stress relief. She runs for her daughter.
Miren was born with a rare disease that affects pretty much every function in her body. The problem is that it took 6 years for them to get an actual diagnosis. During that brutal time of uncertainty, Jamie's marriage fell apart, she battled depression and suicidal thoughts, felt shame and guilt, and wondered how she could ever find a cure to save her daughter.
CACNA1A affects Miren's body’s ability to use calcium and wreaks havoc on her neurological system making it challenging for her to speak, think, and move like her peers.  Children with this disorder present much differently but all express neurological symptoms which include: seizures, episodic ataxia, hypotonia, eye abnormalities, intellectual disability, and cerebellar atrophy.
Jamie's mission is to raise money to find a cure for Miren. This means coming out of her shell, leaving her introverted comfort zone and DOING EVERYTHING SHE CAN TO ADVOCATE FOR HER DAUGHTER.
Unfortunately rare diseases are not prioritized by the medical community for that reason - they're rare. But there's a good chance that a drug has already been discovered that can treat Miren's disorder, so the first step is to raise $250k to run tests for a match. I encourage you to donate if it calls to you. And please forward this episode to anyone you think would benefit from learning more about Miren's Marathon.
Some notable quotes from today's interview:
About running: "I wanted to preserve something that was genuinely part of myself."
About tattoos: "I asked the tattoo artist, 'Where is most painful part of your body for a tattoo?'"
"You can only experience true beauty when you're on the the other side of suffering."
The 6th stage of grief: "This is when everyone can find meaning in their suffering."
At the end of the day, one mom can make a difference. One motivated person can change the world. Thanks, Jamie, for sharing your story with me.
To Donate: Go to Rare Village. This year, donations up to $300 can be refunded as a credit on your taxes!
https://give.rarevillage.org/campaign/mirens-marathon/c307965
More info here:
Tax ID # 83-4699994, Address: 6808 Old Glory Ct, McKinney, TX, 75071, Email: kasey@rarevillage.org
Participate in a 5K Fundraiser: Mark your calendars Feb 28, 2021
Jamie & team will host a virtual 5K on Rare Disease Day - Sunday February 28th called Zebra race for Rare.  Registration is available on the Rare Village Website.

182 - Why We are Here with Human Design Reader Kelsey Abbott

If you're rolling your eyes and getting ready to skip this episode, you're not alone. Kelsey Abbott felt the same way when she first learned about Human Design. As she says in our conversation today, "I was totally skeptical." But the more she learned, the more she allowed herself to open up to something that defied her career as a scientist and tapped into her most powerful, previously undiscovered gift - helping others find their purpose.
Kelsey Abbott is an intuitive Human Design Reader, a Certified Professional Coach, Instigator of Joy and the host of the Find Your Awesome podcast. She helps spiritual adventurers remember who they are and why they’re here so they can uplevel with ease. She believes that the universe wants us to be sparklyAF and that joy is our natural state. When Kelsey isn't playing in her business, she's bringing curiosity, play and joy to triathlon--a sport she races as an elite amateur.

After studying at the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (IPEC) where she earned certifications as a Certified Professional Coach, Energy Leadership Master Practitioner and Cor.E Performance coach, Kelsey also earned her NeuroPositive Certificate in using neuroscience to change how the brain processes challenges at the Applied Neuroscience Institute and studied Human Design with Jenna Zoe.
Before becoming a Certified Professional Coach, Kelsey worked as a nationally-recognized science writer, as a marine biologist studying dolphins and killer whales, as a personal trainer, a group fitness instructor, a swim coach, a triathlon coach and a food blogger. After a decade in Maine and 16 months of traveling around the U.S. in a small camper, Kelsey now lives in Sarasota, Florida with her husband and dog. In case you haven't guessed, Kelsey is a Manifesting Generator living her design and following the joy.   
After this conversation, you will want a Human Design reading! It costs $250 for an initial reading and that may be all you need, but if you want to dig deeper, there are all sorts of ways to work with Kelsey. Check them out here: Play With Kelsey

Some quotes from today's episode:
"As a swim coach and triathlon coach, you’re telling people what to do. As a life coach you’re helping them figure out what to do. It’s a totally different kind of coaching." (Kelsey)
"A big part of my chart is about healing myself so I can heal others." (Kelsey)
"In general a therapist takes you from a dysfunctional past to a functional present, and a coach takes you from a good present to a great future." (Kelsey)
"Some people would say it's impossible to be an entrepreneur and a triathlete at the same time, but I need both." (Kelsey)
"I can imagine most people find value in Human Design when they are at a place where they feel stuck or they can't quite put a finger on what their purpose is." (Nicole)
"In Human Design there is a difference between feelings and emotions. Feelings come from our heads. They are thoughts that lead to feelings. Emotions have no thoughts associated with them and they just come out of the blue." (Kelsey)
NUGGET: "Remember who you are - and then be who you are and let yourself shine and share with the rest of us please." (Kelsey)

181 - Kriste Peoples "It's a Practice. It's not a Perfect."

Kriste Peoples magically fell into my life when I was looking for local models for Skirt Sports. We've always worked hard to showcase real women from the community of all ages, sizes, ethnic diversity and more. From the first moment she smiled for the camera, it was obvious she was special.
Kriste has that glow. That magical glow that truly special people exude when they're smiling (and even when they're not smiling) - they light up the world from the inside out.
Kriste has been on the show before - Mile Repeat 7 from October 2018 - "Kriste Peoples Says YES." Because that has always been her philosophy which you'll hear more about today.
But what's interesting is that she has also realized there are very important times to say no. Like when I reached out to her in June to talk about systemic racism in our country. She was so devastated by the events that had recently occurred that her answer at that time was... no.
This is so important to recognize because we do need to support those moments in our lives when we need to regroup, renourish our souls, find our new paths. I'm going through one right now myself.
Today Kriste has emerged stronger, with a deep emotional perspective on what is happening to our country. And she has also discovered some new tools to help find the calm within the storm - namely meditation. In fact she is launching her first ever guided meditation course called "Mindfulness: A Contemplative Intro to Awareness Meditation." Check it out! It's only $20 for 4 sessions starting November 16, 2020.
For more Kriste Peoples, go to her website, follow her on social @kristepeoples and become a fan because she is doing amazing things!